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3 months from now, you’ll thank yourself.

That’s the screensaver on my phone right now. It’s a visual reminder that the work I’m doing today will pay off tomorrow, like a little gift to my future self. That seems especially important right now, when each day feels just like the last. Like it’s been Groundhog Day every day since March. You feel that way, too?

If you’re going through divorce, or any life-altering event, the idea of making another big change may not be high on your list. But feeling better is, right?


We often think making a change requires some herculean effort. For many of us, that becomes an all or nothing. I don’t have time to work out for an hour, so I won’t bother at all.

Reality is that’s not how it works. In fact, it’s the small, almost unnoticeable actions taken consistently that lead to big change. Lasting change. The kind that causes someone you haven’t seen in a while to say “DAAAA-MN girl, look at you!”

In his book Habit Stacking, author S.J. Scott talks about the power of small actions. Scott challenges us to ask - what’s one thing you could do each day to better your career? To improve your finances? To achieve better health? “Imagine what life would be like if you began each day with small actions that created a chain reaction of positive benefits throughout your life.” Most habits - like making a healthy snack, or saying something kind to yourself - only take 3 to 5 minutes to do. But the compounding effect of them is incredible.

Do any “small” action repeatedly, and you’ll see a huge improvement. That’s the rub: you’ve got to do it consistently or nothing will happen. Simple, yes. But it requires daily commitment.

There’s a flip side to this, too. Take a small action that’s bad for you every day, and you’ll see a change all right. Google “The Covid 15” if you don’t believe me.


Here are some of the small action ideas I wrote down. I figure that if I do even half of them on most days, by the time the world’s back to normal I should be healthier and happier. Or at least less sunburnt.

  • Eat a piece of fruit

  • Take a walk around the block

  • Sign out of social media for the day

  • Text a close friend

  • Meditate

  • Call your mom

  • Get out of bed when the alarm goes off

  • Read 1 chapter in a book

  • Take your vitamins

  • Drink a glass of water

  • Do 10 pushups

  • Write down your top priority for the day

  • Unsubscribe to a site you don’t follow

  • Put back 1 chocolate chip cookie 🍪

  • Stretch

  • Hug your kids

  • Put on sunscreen

  • Clean off your desk

  • Reorganize a clothes drawer

  • Let your dog lick your face

So ask yourself - what action, if you took it every day, would you thank yourself for doing 3 months from now?

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Very great article, I liked your thought and the way you developed it, it really makes you think about what we do and what effect it has in the future. I also liked your idea with the screen saver on the phone, I call it a foraging images, this motif has been common for a long time, but it has one drawback, in my opinion, it is getting used to this image and subsequently weakening your desire, which can negatively affect your activities. Therefore, I would recommend changing the image from time to time, but keeping the meaning the same.

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